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Emotional intelligence and weight loss

Culture impacts our perception of what beauty is. In India, traditionally being reasonably fat was considered a sign of good health and wealth. There is a tribe in Ethiopia known as the Bodi tribe and they prize pot bellied men as the pinnacle of male beauty:

"Slim might be in elsewhere but for Ethiopia's Bodi or Me'en people, bigger is always better. The tribe, which lives in a remote corner of Ethiopia's Omo Valley, is home to an unusual ritual which sees young men gorge on cow's blood and milk in a bid to be crowned the fattest man. Six months after starting the regime, the men emerge to show off their newly engorged physiques and for a winner to be chosen. The champion fat man is then feted as a hero for the rest of his life. .The contest begins six months before the Bodi New Year or Ka'el ceremony. Every family is allowed to present an unmarried man for the challenge, who, after being chosen, retires to his hut and must not move or have sex for the duration."

Ruth Styles

The modern lifestyle of the 5 day 9-5 week, often behind a computer screen, or doing repetitive tasks at a desk or on a factory floor does not necessarily guarantee a healthy balanced life. Exercise for farmers or hunters gatherers may be part of the daily output. But when motivation to go to the gym or exercise regularly and eat healthy needs to be cultivated often we find ourselves inwardly depressed and our waistlines bulging in ways that make us feel below par. We may make New Year's resolutions that start with plenty of enthusiasm but they can easily peter out. We may sign up to organizations designed to sell us their in house protein shakes and keep us on track to get slim. Or we may stay in our habitual path and not make the inner changes needed to love ourselves in a way that yields the balanced life we may desire.

A comedian once said we get fat because we put too much food in the hole in our head and we don't exercise enough. This may be factually true, but there are other nuances too. Feeling pressured and stressed financially, at work or in our relationships, comfort eating, boredom, brainwashing from the commercial world, addiction to entertainment and sugar, not getting the sweetness in our lives our emotional well being demands - all these things can impact our equilibrium negatively and may yield an unhealthy disposition.

Our focus with weight loss is to get to know the individual. What makes you tick? What are your limitations? How supple and flexible is your body? What is your diet like? What is your mental diet like?

Are you focused on self-love? How does one embrace self-love wisely?

What is your relationship with your nature and nature? Have you learned to cook and enjoy it? Are you sensitive to the body's needs? What underlying factors shape your relationship with food and with your body? By attending to these things we can become aware of the soils that yield our body image and our sense of ease with ourselves - and we can consciously become aware of the absence of ease and address those things with maturity and sensitivity.