Emotional intelligence and addiction
“What the other person says or does cannot really annoy or irritate you except you permit him to disturb you. The only way he can annoy you is through your own thought.
For example, if you get angry, you have to go through four stages in your mind:
You begin to think about what he said.
You decide to get angry and generate an emotion of rage. Then, you decide to act.
Perhaps, you talk back and react in kind.
You see that the thought, emotion, reaction, and action all take place in your mind. When you become emotionally mature, you do not respond negatively to the criticism and resentment of others.”
― Joseph Murphy, The Power of Your Subconscious Mind